The Illusion of Friendship

Lately I’ve been trying to scrutinize what this supposed holy, unblemished bond existent in most human relations is all about? (And why it has often eluded me? Or why I seem to think so) I began by trying to revisit the roots of this ubiquitous relation. I’m pretty sure that the issue has been well documented but without citing any of those, which probably make more sense than what I’m about to blurt out now, I wanted to retain my opinionated version of it.

To my reasoning ways it felt as though friendship was more a byproduct of making evolutionary ends meet. It is quite natural that an objective can be achieved in a more efficient manner when there’s collaboration between participating groups. I recall from one of biology classes that a cell, which, I think, is the most elementary form of all living organisms, collaborates with other similar or dissimilar cells to achieve a common goal. This probably results in a slightly more complex organism and when such a process repeats recursively, with it’s immediate ancestors as principal arguments, offspring of more complex and more evolved nature results. The need for this probably was survival in a changing environment.Repeat it for a millions of years and you have friendship. Now survival often doesn’t make the cut. Dominance inevitably ensues survival if desirable circumstances pitch in. There are several layers of dominance and those at the bottom of this chain will depend on inanimate entities. I’ve always pondered the need for dominance. It could’ve been something completely inadvertent. To validate, imagine a collection of an odd number of negative charges and two positive charges in a space and nothing else. It’s obvious one of the positive charges will have more negative charges than the other hence it’s more influential than the other should another negative charge enter this vicinity(Assuming no equilibrium conditions set in,this , I think, can't happen in a biological environment... a cell doesn't just loiter between two equal forces). I’d like to imagine a world without it, realizing that it fundamentally gave impetus for more complexity, but I guess it’s inevitable once it has been revved into motion. Unfortunately it’s perpetually in gear. The more we evolve the more we dominate.

Now the idea of love and friendship is the same to me. We befriend on the grounds and of benefits and common goals. Like cells we need each other to rise to a more evolved state. The more we collaborate the higher the degree of evolution. The higher the degree the more the followers, just like a more powerful positive charge attracts more negative charges than a less powerful one. It’s the trend setter. It might or might not have scruples. But whatever it may be it will allure less powerful. As the saying goes - “if you can’t beat them, join them”. There might be a system of mutually dependant charges attracted to one another. But if a there’s a more powerful system which passes by this system, in seeming tranquility, things will destabilize. Gotta beat them or join them. This is our mentality. Undaunted, some of them do whatever needed unfazed by the heights of the challenge. They flush past relations and principles, they started off with, down the drain just like the negative charges will give up it’s previous positive holder for the more powerful. But there are others still loyal to their mothers. They won’t let go because the mother has raised them long enough, close enough. This is like relationship between some parents and their children. But these are the forgotten ones... those insignificant charges which don't matter, which don't affect the big guns. While some children are forever loyal to parents, there are others who will desert them like the lovers who desert their previous partners, the so called friends who desert their friends for brighter prospects. The illusion is this…. Somewhere in our lifetimes we believe that there lies true love. To me at least, love is like the columbic forces that exist between charges. Although seemingly unbreakable, this is conditional. It’s unconditional subject to the circumstance that no other conditions exist. We all know that no columbic force; no force is unbreakable, not permanent. No love is unconditional; hence no love in essence exists. It’s all a mere illusion, a fucking lie sold to us. To believe in it’s sanctity is the stupidest mistake. Amidst all this I must believe that this is not the truth. I try to. But time and experience has taught me, has disillusioned me. You don’t have to concur with me in this regard.